Will you be my Valentine…Please?

By Majed Iqbal- It’s that time of the year again when the Majnu’s of this world- yes that Aashiq crowd whose diet consists of a Bollywood movie a night come out and confess their love to ‘the one’.

Yes, were talking about Valentines Day when romance is in the air and a day on which postal services are jammed with delivering cards and letters, or playing the role of a ‘cupid’, forwarding messages of ‘true love’.

Youngsters will be making Valentine’s cards, and many would be collecting money from their pocket money to buy gifts for their so called loved one. And there is that air of anticipation and anxiousness of receiving an anonymous card from a secret admirer!

At schools, colleges and Unis people boast about the number of admirers they have. It’s all about the ratings game! So the more you have the bigger the player the lad is or the more ‘pulling power’ that girl has. Others will be hiding their faces with utter humiliation in the realisation that nobody showed any romantic interest in them., again!

So what’s the harm in all this some may ask? After all, is it not a day for girls and guys to indulge in a bit of fun, excitement and harmless love?

Valentine’s Day is not simply about showing your affection to your partner or spouse, but it is in fact a day to remove all inhibitions and show your feelings to the person you secretly desire, a colleague, classmate, next door neighbour, relative etc, but someone to whom on any other day of the year it would not be easy to approach.

The modern day ritual of Valentine’s Day has developed into something quite different from the intentions of Valentine. Indeed, it is ironic to think that what the Church tried to achieve so long ago was the preservation of the institution of marriage, in the guise of St Valentine’s Day.

The reality of Valentine’s Day and what is associated with it is quite different; the return of promiscuity to society, relationships built upon and that result in sleeping around, unwanted pregnancies, back street abortions and the growing phenomenon of ‘date rape’ which both guys and girls are victims of.

On Valentine’s Day Student Unions at university have been known to will  issue free condoms, college bars will be subsidising exotic cocktails, and drug-pushers will be stocking up on the latest line of ‘date rape’ pills.  Sadly, the corruption that ensues from this celebration of immorality affects all levels of society. Far from being a harmless activity, Valentine’s Day is seen as big business (despite the credit crunch faced!)

The relationships developed from such ventures seem therefore to last only for mutual benefit and a bit of pleasure, rather than any serious adventure to bind two people together to lead life honourably.

When Muslims are encouraged to engage in Valentine’s Day they are being asked to discard the Islamic morals, standards of behaviour, respect and dignity that is commanded from men and women.

Islamically, a relationship between a man and woman is governed under the noble ties of marriage and not through girlfriend boyfriend relationships or ‘quick fixes’ for momentarily pleasure. Marriage is based on companionship in Islam and not on competition on who can get the most girls and guys under their belt.

Hence, Muslims should not feel guilty or pressured in this climate. Rather they should present the true facts and consequences, the heart aches and in some cases ruining of lives that such days may bring with them. Debates and discussions should be opened on ‘Relationships’ highlighting how Freedom and liberal values breed irresponsibility in relationships and highlighting how Islam is the guarantor for harmony and comfort in its institution of marriage.

Muslims should behave in accordance to the rules of Islam when engaging with the opposite sex and stand firm in defending the Islamic social ideals rather than feeling ashamed about them.

Abdullah ibn Umar said, ‘The Prophet (saw) came to us and said, ‘Oh Muhajireen, you may be afflicted by five things; God forbid that you should live to see them. If fornication should become widespread, you should realise that this has never happened without new diseases befalling the people which their forbears never suffered. If people should begin to cheat in weighing out goods, you should realise that this has never happened without drought and famine befalling the people, and their rulers oppressing them. If people should withhold zakat, you should realise that this has never happened without the rain being stopped from falling; and were it not for the animals’ sake, it would never rain again. If people should break their covenant with Allah and His messenger, you should realise that it has never happened without Allah sending an enemy against them to take some of their possessions by force. If the leaders do not govern according to the Book of Allah, you should realise that this has never happened without Allah making them into groups and making them fight one another’ [Ibn Majah].


  1. shahidul haque says:

    The brother who is writing is writing his opinion he doesnt need to have experience of it, this is very common knowledge for most people living in this society.

    but my actual contribution is that the Prophet saw said:

    Whosoever believes in Allah and the Last day should speak good or shall stay quiet.

    InshaAllah a reminder for all of us

  2. Mohammed, really … grow up !! Sad that you have such a beautiful name and such an immature mind !! Majed is talking sense and all you can do is what the average knuckle head does. Grow up or be quiet !!!!!

  3. Salaam,

    @ brother Ansar, could you please write an article on such a matter please. I’ll be interested to read what you write, and how your stance differs from that of brother Majed

    The fact is brother Majed has wrote an article on a topic that is current, it is too the point. The brother has got the ISLAMIC view point across that celebrating such a day is not permissible in Islam. One mans lazy journalism is another mans “to the point”


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